Important Wedding Manners

You might be too engrossed on the planning stage and too focused on the style of your dress and the flowers to be put up on the aisle, but did you know that there are more important elements in the celebration other than your hairstyle and the food to be served at the reception?

The most overlooked part in the celebration, and yet extremely crucial in making your wedding celebration a success, is the etiquette of the ceremony and the details and process that comes with it.

Too often, couples never look at this very important element but having correct manners in a wedding define the kind of attitude and personalities of the couple, their sense of style and personal touches and how they would want to make everything lovely and elegant.

So, before going overboard with the preparation, here are the crucial manners to be observed on the wedding planning and ceremony.

Preparation:

• Do not plan a wedding you cannot afford. If budget is limited, have your reception at your backyard. The 35th richest man in the world done this.
• Prepare a guest list and specify the names of the people you wish to invite before you dispatch the invitation.  
• Do not dream of inviting the whole legion of friends and officemates to your wedding unless you have extra budget. Never put so much attention to what they are saying, after all, it's you who will suffer after the wedding.
• Keep the invitation simple. Historically, a wedding invitation consists only of the message of invite, RSVP and the menu card.
• Specify the number of seat you allotted and the number of the table for the recipients of the invitation. 
• Dispatch the invitation exactly one month before the wedding day.
• If no reply from the guests, make a follow up two to three weeks before the wedding, ask them if they could attend or not.

Essentials:

• The type of wedding ceremony is always a choice of the couple, no one can dictate it.
• To stay at the footing of your budget, never organize a ceremony that loaded with too many fancy essentials.
• Scrap unnecessary elements like flower girls and page boys, as long as their roles won't affect the essence of the ceremony, their presence are not really required.
• Historically, the arrhae and wedding rings are carried by the Best Man.
• Keep the ceremony simple and memorable. Do not organize a program that will embarrass your guests or your family members.
• Do not dream of stuffing your big day with too many flowers. It is very expensive. Try choosing green plants instead, it will add a lovely botanical fantasy plus you can save a lot.
• Do not attach the bridal registry card on the wedding invitation, it suggests bad manners. Put an announcement instead on your wedding site if you want your guests to be informed about the registry.
• If you put up a registry, do not list ridiculously expensive items, a registry is set up to help the guests pick a present smoothly and not to compel them to buy you appliances.
• Couples should not have an attitude of expecting gifts. Do not act as if guests are compelled to bring gifts in exchange for the privilege of attending your reception. They are invited to share the joy and happiness of the celebration.

Attitude:

• As the wedding date nearly approaching, be positive and relish the idea of happiness and love. Stop worrying about the little things.
• Do not worry about whether the bride's maids will match each other's dresses or the reception venue doesn't have enough flowers to impress the guests. 
• Do not worry whether the motif you choose will look perfectly on photos or not, it doesn't matter, after all, it's the essence of the ceremony that provides a lasting impression.
• Do not constantly fret on petty things.
• Do not worry whether every angle you visualize is captured on camera and video. Wedding photos are souvenirs of your wedding day, no friends or relatives would want to watch it every minute of the day.
• Happy moment of the wedding can be killed by a bad joke, so prepare a program that would not embarrass you and your guests. Tell the hosts not to attempt to sabotage the party by creating a surprise part of the program without your knowledge. 
• Maintain your focus, do not make your wedding an excuse of having a disoriented mind.

Well, just like all big events, nothing goes 100% perfect. So stop worrying too much.