Proper wedding etiquette is not only for the bride and groom, but for wedding guests as well. Here are some rules to be observed when attending a wedding.
According to Huffingtonpost, a prestigious newspaper in the US, one important manner that guests must be observed when attending a wedding is "NEVER POST WEDDING PHOTOS UNTIL THE NEWLYWEDS DO SO":
"While the barrage of day-after wedding photo postings are inevitable, Post explains that brides are very sensitive about their image. It’s best to wait until either the bride or the groom have publicly posted pictures before you post your own. Otherwise, said Post, "You’re kind of Facebook scooping them … on their own big day." -- The Huffingtonpost Washington
ON INVITATION
- Treat R.S.V.P with respect. The couple will decide on the number of people to be accommodated at the reception.
- Due to ignorance or maybe because it is not part of the tradition, most people who receive an R.S.V.P card simply ignore it. Now, just imagine the anxiety and expenses the couple would be spending if you are not going to send a reply.
- Don't assume that the couple knows you're coming to the wedding. It is very appropriate and highly proper to confirm your attendance by sending them a message. Send a confirmation message days after you receive the invitation or three weeks before the wedding.
- If in the event you cannot make it to the wedding date, then it is a must to send a message and tell them the reason why you cannot attend.
- Don't bring someone, even your kids, not specified in the invitation, it adds horror to the couple of having numerous excess heads at the reception. Bringing unexpected guests is always impolite.
ON WEDDING GIFTS
- Buying a gift is not really a mandatory action but always appropriate to do so.
- If you don't want to buy them a gift from their registry, make sure you buy something very useful like plates, spoon, cups, glass, saucers, linen, towel.
- Cash is always an acceptable present for the couple, so if you are confuse what to buy, give them cash instead.
- You don't need to bring the gifts at the reception, you can send it before or after the wedding. Bringing gifts at the reception means additional burden to the couple assigning someone inconveniently to bring it home.
AT THE CHURCH CEREMONY
- Don't be late!Be sure to arrive on time just before the bridal march.
- If you arrive at the church quite late and notice the bridal march is on going, wait for the bride to take her turn to walk down the aisle before entering the church.
- If you are attending a ceremony of a different religion, respect their rites and tradition. Just quietly follow what is being dictated by their customs.
- Avoid taking photographs during the ceremony, respect the sanctity of the ritual before you, leave it to the hired photographers and videographers.
- Do not scream at the church just because you want the couple to smoother in front of the crowd, it is always a bad manner.
AT THE RECEPTION
- Don't just show up to the reception and miss the ceremony, it is always impolite.
- At the reception, show respect to other guests by behaving at your table.
- Unless the reception requires guests to exchange pleasantries with another, you are not supposed to go hopping from one table to another.
- Do not bang the table or clang the glass with spoon to instruct the couple what to do like kissing, hugging, etcetera.
- Don't be all about your wedding. If you're tying the knot next, leave it there and show respect by focusing on the wedding where you are attending, you will have your own moment later.
- Don't leave before the wedding cake is cut or before the wedding toast is administer.
- While a wedding is a moment of excitement and celebration, no one appreciates an impolite guest embarrassing the couple telling them what to do, requesting something out of no where.
- Do not insist of bringing home something like extra wedding souvenirs or a slice of a wedding cake.
OTHER IMPORTANT POINTERS
- You must dress based on the request specified in the invitation.
- If the invitation tells you to bring at least one person, make sure this someone won't make a fuss at the ceremony. If that person or child has an unpredictable temper, leave him or her at home.
- Never ask the couple to give you additional "invitation" or pass just because you want to bring someone at the ceremony.
- Stop using phone, tablet or other electronic gadgets that will caught attention at the ceremony or at the reception.
- Aside from your gift and presence, don't forget to send a message to the couple how pleased you are to be invited to the wedding.
- Guests must pay for their own transportation and lodging.
Sources:
The Frugal Bride
The Huffingtonpost
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