While doing some research online for suitable wedding manners, I came across with this beautiful and must-read article from TLC website about "Wedding Reception Rituals that We Wish Would Die Already".
True enough, there are guests who would experience a deep sense of anxiety when attending a wedding reception because of so many stressful portions in the wedding program, not only for the guests but for the newlyweds as well.
"Aside from wearing shiny shoes, uncomfortable dress and make up, carrying gifts and talking to complete strangers, they will have to brave confusing and embarassing wedding rituals which are both toe-curlingly corny and socially awkward, from the de-gartering of the bride to the throwing of bouquets, everything seems to be worst as times goes by especially if you are a person who cringed the idea of becoming the butt of jokes in a social event".
The trouble with weddings in the provinces is that couples never actually prepare and screen out the program themselves. Due to tension and pressure following the planning stage, they prefer to let their organizers and close friends do the program preparation which is partly wrong as they would be clueless what will happen along the way.
To avoid disasters and to spare important guests from humiliation, couples must check the flow of the program first before the big day. Contact your organizers or host of the wedding reception program, screen out the flow of the program and the fun games (if there's any) and make sure none of your guests will be subjected to embarrassment. Wedding is a social event and no one in their correct senses would ever want themselves to become the subject of ridicule and stupidity in a gathering.
There are wedding planners and hosts of the ceremony that are really insensitive and untutored on how to conduct a very polite and well-mannered social gathering, most of these people just wanted to create a funny, entertaining moment at the expense of the guests which is highly improper and very rude. Couples did not invite their guests to be embarrassed.
To avoid disasters and to spare important guests from humiliation, couples must check the flow of the program first before the big day. Contact your organizers or host of the wedding reception program, screen out the flow of the program and the fun games (if there's any) and make sure none of your guests will be subjected to embarrassment. Wedding is a social event and no one in their correct senses would ever want themselves to become the subject of ridicule and stupidity in a gathering.
There are wedding planners and hosts of the ceremony that are really insensitive and untutored on how to conduct a very polite and well-mannered social gathering, most of these people just wanted to create a funny, entertaining moment at the expense of the guests which is highly improper and very rude. Couples did not invite their guests to be embarrassed.
In reality, even myself, I detested attending a wedding reception because of the rude program organized by the hosts of the ceremony which would really push you to the edge of irritation. Stupidity is not an entertainment by the way. A wedding should be organized for everyone attending to enjoy and not to annoy.
Here's a list of Top 10 wedding reception rituals that are obsolete and gone-with-the-ages and no longer trendy, therefore, must be discarded:
1. The Bouquet Toss
Does anyone really want to catch that thing?
By far, according to TLC website, throwing of the bridal bouquet is the most-hated wedding reception in world history, this is not funny after all why? Because it aims to poke fun at the single ladies deliberately making them the center of stupidity which is downright cruel and boorish. Afterall, you did not invite your guests to be humiliated, so why push them to ramble on the floor when the price is to embarrass them afterwards? Remember that guests have different personality, if the hosts of the ceremony find it funny, others dismissed it as too offensive, disgusting and very uncomfortable.
The only audience/guests who are happy with this stupid wedding reception ritual are the married guests, who seemed ecstatic to see someone embarrassed in front of many people. Very rude and lacks proper social etiquette. What's more disgusting with this ritual is that too much enthusiasm will make you look like a lunatic, while refusing to join will make you like an impossible snobbish individual and could potentially put you in an uncomfortable situation of being dubbed as a total "killjoy". People could not simply comprehend that embarrassment is a dangerous issue. So how would you enjoy the party when there's plenty of pressure in the surroundings?
By far, according to TLC website, throwing of the bridal bouquet is the most-hated wedding reception in world history, this is not funny after all why? Because it aims to poke fun at the single ladies deliberately making them the center of stupidity which is downright cruel and boorish. Afterall, you did not invite your guests to be humiliated, so why push them to ramble on the floor when the price is to embarrass them afterwards? Remember that guests have different personality, if the hosts of the ceremony find it funny, others dismissed it as too offensive, disgusting and very uncomfortable.
The only audience/guests who are happy with this stupid wedding reception ritual are the married guests, who seemed ecstatic to see someone embarrassed in front of many people. Very rude and lacks proper social etiquette. What's more disgusting with this ritual is that too much enthusiasm will make you look like a lunatic, while refusing to join will make you like an impossible snobbish individual and could potentially put you in an uncomfortable situation of being dubbed as a total "killjoy". People could not simply comprehend that embarrassment is a dangerous issue. So how would you enjoy the party when there's plenty of pressure in the surroundings?
2. Prosperity Dance, Selling puto or lollipop per table....you get the idea
Why would this ancient tradition would not just die down?It's so tacky and pretty medieval.
According to TLC website
"Guests have already travelled, spend so much on transportation expenses, dress, shoes, make up and wrapping the electric potato peeler on the bridal registry you had announced, letting them doing another round of "shedding" their hard-earned money, pinning it on the bride's dress is a way too much vulgar and overtly rude.
Couple may reinvent it anyway if they want to include it badly in the ceremony. While everyone favors the advantage of having a prosperity dance in the reception because it means drawing plenty of "cash", wedding organizers can recreate it by thinking of other new trend which is more stylish and unique like putting a wedding wishing well or wedding shop.
3. Cheesy Photo Montage
Come to think of it. A wedding reception is not a business meeting but a time to eat, drink and get on with the party. Wedding guests should not be subjected to cheesy showdown of your memento they have had enough and don't need another show of staring two people they've already been watching for three hours since the ceremony started.
4. Awkward Speeches
There's nothing wrong with a good and warm wedding toast speech it's part of the ceremony, but adding another round of speeches from guests and relatives is another thing. It's a wedding and not a farewell party. Guests want to enjoy their meals, little kids are fighting their appetite of sleeping so why spoil it with a "speech" portion? Hearing a distant uncle, a shy father, or a hesitant principal sponsor deliver a rambling speech tend you to fall asleep.
5. The Elaborate Removal of the Garter
The groom is obviously happy, lustily removing the garter from his bride's legs, but what about the innocent bystander? Let's admit it. There are other parts of the wedding reception rituals that are so cute and cheesy like the first dance of the couple, the bite sharing of cake, but others, like throwing of bridal bouquet and removal of the garter, are plain disturbing. Like tossing of bouquet which tends to humiliate single ladies, garter removal is also a tacky and hostile portion of the wedding reception that pushes single men guests to cringe in embarrasment, "That in and of itself is enough to make everyone in a 20-foot radius back up a step", according to TLC.
6. Here we go....The Bouquet/Garter Matchup
This portion is one of the most nonsense and dreaded parts of the wedding reception that wrongly perceived by wedding organizers as entertaining and funny. Again, creating an entertaining program at the expense of others is simply insensitive and ridiculous and stupid and stupidity is not a form of entertainment.
The bouquet and garter match up will force the unfortunate "catchers" to dance and do what the couple did in front of ecstatic audience. What other people did not know is the hidden embarrassment and humiliation the two strangers felt. Don't ever think that all people approve this kind of foolish game at the reception. There are individuals who detest this ritual and the potential trauma of embarrassment takes forever to subside.
It's enough that the couple displayed an awkward kissing moment at the church's steps while the crowd went crazy by screaming on top of their lungs "More!More!", so why requiring them to undergo another round of smooching at the four corners of the reception area? Give the newlyweds a time to unwind and relax after the intense months of preparation by allowing them to enjoy the reception without pressure and clutters.
8. Sit-down Reception
This is a common practice among the upper class but unrealistic for the working class. In the modern world where economic meltdown is as dreadful as catching a bridal bouquet, sit-down reception is simply a thing of the past. If it's not in your budget then do not force yourself by scrambling to find a risky way to have money just to impress everyone attending with fantastic food and venue. Remember that starting your married life in a wrong financial footing is a bad omen and spell disaster. Why not organizing a simple garden party with canapes or a cocktail party with refreshment for a reception? After all it's your wedding and if anybody has a problem with that set up ask them politely if they can contribute something to make your wedding grand enough.
There you go....
The eight obsolete rituals in a wedding reception that must be discarded and must be recreated. Apart from the liturgy and the traditional rites that the church followed in a matrimonial ceremony, a wedding in many aspects is purely ceremonial, so you can organized it differently not merely following what the traditions dictate especially at the reception.
Try to be creative and stylish, spruce up your wedding with originality and uniqueness and give your guests a kind of event that would not compel them to succumb to a nervous breakdown. Make every minute memorable and relaxing while enjoying the party.
SOURCES: TLC website, Marie Claire website
SOURCES: TLC website, Marie Claire website
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